THE LOST PHASE

The lost phase knock everyone’s door at times.

Recently I got lost, not in the world but myself. I was not taking care of anything, no post, no thread, no self-improvement. Just overthinking, guilt, and frustration.

Then I decided to change everything, which makes me to write this letter for you all. Remember,

This phase doesn’t last long. You must not panic and let it be there.

I can guide you now because I have gone through it many times. It’s the phase where you fall back to the high entropy state (chaotic version) of yourself.

You’re trapped into your older habits, desires, fear, self-doubt, and full of uncertainty. Suddenly you lost the grip from the present moment where the past haunts you and the future scares you.

The more you try to resist it, the more you get trap into it.

So, how could one deal with that phase, when you don’t see any hope. When you can’t decide your second move. The answer is simple yet effective.

To understand the deeper aspects, we need to bring the spiritual context of it.

The humans tend to connect more with themselves. The purpose for everyone is to understand the being, but are refusing and focusing more on the materialistic desires.

So, there is a need of a purpose that fulfils them and helps them to feel alive.

But most of the time your thought process & thinking structure has been installed by someone else. It is not yours and it has become difficult to connect with yourself and thus you feel lost.

Let’s dive deep into…

WHY YOU GET LOST?

You get lost because you don’t have any goal. The goals which are planned & divided into days, months, and years.

Your mind craves order and certainty but you fail to give the one to it.

Getting lost isn’t a problem. The important thing is how fast you deal and come out of it.

I divided these phases into four parts:

1. Lost due to lack of purpose in life

The most common complain of people. Everyone already has a purpose in their life but they are not aware of it.

The finding of the purpose demands the loss of your identity. But people are attached to it.

You need to delve deep inside your mind, to understand yourself more. How?

“Study your past records, observe your present, and find the burning desire for your future. In this process you will be lost again & again. But it is the price you pay to find the thing that you want to live for the rest of your life.”

The burning desire is your short-term purpose of the life. Once you get bore move on to the next.

“When you fulfill all your desires than there comes the one that is made for you.”

The purpose of the life is not by birth or destined, but set through your own desires, understanding, and conditioning of the mind. It takes your time.

You repeat the process and if it doesn’t make sense then you must have the guts to leave it behind.

I did several things in the past; digital marketing, joined affiliate programs, stock marketing, playing chess, getting a degree. But only writing gives me the thrill to do it every day.

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2. Lost due to the poor conditioning of the mind

Most of the people don’t have their own mindset. They carry other’s opinion, belief, and doubt inside them.

I see my friends, neighbours, and parents asking me to do the jobs all the time. But they are not aware, why it has to be the job only. Even those with highly qualified nerds ask the same.

Am I saying, doing job is the worst. Not at all. But if one does it, then why he has to project it to someone else.

You’ve been conditioned since your childhood. The code runs into your mind without your awareness because you haven’t question anything yet.

So, how can one be free from it?

To break the conditioning of the mind, you must question your beliefs, fear, and intelligence.

Once you start questioning it, you get into the uncomfortable zone. If you persist there for a while then 99% chance is you break the code.

The 3 factors that affect the conditioning of the mind are;

-            Your environment

-            Your friend’s circle

-            Your phone

Consider all the factors along with the importance of questioning everything in your life.

It is easier to change the conditioning of the mind, once you understand the matrix?

 3. Lost due to the fear of getting rejection.

Most of the people of my age are afraid of trying and taking full responsibility. They follow the normal path that is already designed by someone else.

Because of the comfort zone and risk involve in pursuing their own dreams. Many don’t know what they want to do and it’s fine but the problem is when they don’t want to figure it out.

The path is yours, and no is going to hold it for you. Slowly you must build it with knowledge, skills, and patience.

Rejection is the most crucial part of our life. It is the sign that you don’t deserve it yet and must work more on yourself.

Sometimes failing a lot can help you to understand that the path is not made for you. There are many examples where people become great after getting rejected.

How to handle the fear of rejection?

 I wouldn’t say don’t fear rejection but it is an illusion created by the mind to protect your ‘ego.’ You need to have an open mind to decode it.

 4. Lost due to the inability to choose yourself

The lost that 99.9% are facing, and the worst part is they don’t even know it.

Here are few questions that will trigger your ego, and if you become uncomfortable then you’re the one who hasn’t chosen oneself.

1.        Do you really want to pursue what you’ve right now? It may be the job, study, degree.

2.        What’s the one thing that you can do without expecting to get anything back?

3.        Are you free? Or it’s your parent and the society that you’re living for?

4.        What do you want rather than money?

5.        What’s the one thing that ignites you to do more & more?

Grab a note book and write down the answer that comes to your mind. Just write, no overthinking and if you don’t find any answers then just be honest.

Choosing yourself is the first step towards freedom. Freedom from the external validations. Your parents, the society, and the crowd.

Choosing here doesn’t mean to hurt others for your selfish desires but to find your true self.

What to choose and how?

Choose to:

-            Question everything

-            Work on your dreams

-            Work on your emotions

-            Wake up early everyday

-            Do workouts

-            Diet

-            Read

-            Write

-            Create

-            Plan

-            Build

Actually no one can tell you what you must choose, but the above is the basic requirements that you need initially.

How to choose is an important question here. You need a vision to pull the good towards you. ‘The tendency to lose yourself is more without a vision.’ What is a vision?

A vision is the future projection of your current self. How you want to live after 5 years from now, what habits do you want to change, what would be the road map to reach there?

When you choose to be your authentic self, you become free from the labelling.

Then you act out of your total consciousness, which is pure bliss.

Now, it’s time for you to choose!

DOUBT SESSION

Don’t live for others but for yourself, is the most misused phrase? Let’s understand why?

You always live for yourself. Do not doubt on it, because the human mind is designed to protect the self only.

You consciously or unconsciously try to protect your self-made image which is programmed through your beliefs and the external factors. The self-made image is the ego. It runs your life. Hatred, jealousy, anger, frustration feeds it.

You need to observe it till the point it loosens its grip and you become free.

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To find your true self you must get lost for days, stuck into your thoughts, feel overwhelmed, stay grounded and hope. So, whoever is really trying it, you must be ready to lose friends, enjoy solitude, question everything and developed the ability to find the answers for yourself without any dependence. EMBRACE each part and registers it into your experience.

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